Phrase 1 – We didn’t get much done but we had a good time. (Doing) Phrase 2 – If we had a heart connection, then we did get something done. (Being) Can you spot the difference? Phrase 1 comes from a doing attitude. Phrase 2 comes from a being attitude. Turkish culture is very much a being culture. This can be frustrating for us with a Western mentality; especially those who operate from lists i.e. both of us and when we as a family hit culture shock (missing England and our British culture) and are learning the language full time. A good-measured day may just look like learning one new verb that day whilst doing life in a new country - and that’s ok for a season.
For example: A group of English language students were about to graduate from there year of learning. The Western language leader thought they would celebrate the end of the course by having a small ceremony with some drinks, nibbles and photocopied certificates made from MS Word. At the end of the ceremony party, the language leader announced that there will be a 2nd year course for anyone who wanted to continue the course and that people could sign up at the end of the evening. To his surprise no one signed up. Why? A high context culture. The Turkish guests were expecting a 3 course meal, smart dress code or gowns to be worn and plaque certificates handed over with a handshake and photograph. Because the event was very laid back, it set the scene in Turks minds that the course isn’t important or held in high regard. In the West – we are more of a low context culture – everything was nice, we had a nice group evening, some drinks, nibbles. Phrases such as... that felt like it went well or that was very relaxed. Of course these are exaggerations but you get the point. Family differences: Different view of bedtime haha! Our son goes to sleep at roughly 6:30pm. In Turkey the children stay with you and fall asleep late in the evening. Why? Culture clash! Turks think you don’t love your kids if you are not with them and put them to bed early. (Of course we love Josh, we’ve just got a different view on bedtime) Honouring of family as the collective; there is a respect and culture of honour for the elderly. All the young folk, leave their seats on a Dolmas (small van for transport), when an elderly person needs a seat. Can't wait to live there and embrace this new culture!
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AuthorNeil Hunter-Kelm, proud husband and father, loving Jesus and others. Primary School Teacher, jogger, footballer, cyclist and beginner drummer. ArchivesCategories |